Taylor Mali: What Teachers Make

Taylor Mali is such an inspiring educator. In honor of school starting last week, I wanted to share something about teachers and anything by Taylor Mali is great.

Taylor Mali What Teachers Make

 

I have such great admiration for the teaching profession. I come from a long family line of educators (teachers, professors, school super administrators, librarians, etc). I think Taylor Mali sums it up beautifully.

What Teachers Make
by Taylor Mali

He says the problem with teachers is
What’s a kid going to learn
from someone who decided his best option in life
was to become a teacher?

He reminds the other dinner guests that it’s true
what they say about teachers:
Those who can, do; those who can’t, teach.
I decide to bite my tongue instead of his
and resist the temptation to remind the dinner guests
that it’s also true what they say about lawyers.
Because we’re eating, after all, and this is polite conversation.

I mean, you’re a teacher, Taylor.
Be honest. What do you make?

And I wish he hadn’t done that— asked me to be honest—
because, you see, I have this policy about honesty and ass-­‐kicking:
if you ask for it, then I have to let you have it.
You want to know what I make?
I make kids work harder than they ever thought they could.
I can make a C+ feel like a Congressional Medal of Honor
and an A-­‐ feel like a slap in the face.
How dare you waste my time
with anything less than your very best.

I make kids sit through 40 minutes of study hall
in absolute silence. No, you may not work in groups.
No, you may not ask a question.
Why won’t I let you go to the bathroom?
Because you’re bored.
And you don’t really have to go to the bathroom, do you?

I make parents tremble in fear when I call home:
Hi. This is Mr. Mali. I hope I haven’t called at a bad time,
I just wanted to talk to you about something your son said today.
To the biggest bully in the grade, he said,
“Leave the kid alone. I still cry sometimes, don’t you?
It’s no big deal.”
And that was noblest act of courage I have ever seen.

I make parents see their children for who they are
and what they can be.

You want to know what I make? I make kids wonder,
I make them question.
I make them criticize.
I make them apologize and mean it.
I make them write.
I make them read, read, read.
I make them spell definitely beautiful, definitely beautiful, definitely beautiful
over and over and over again until they will never misspell
either one of those words again.
I make them show all their work in math
and hide it on their final drafts in English.
I make them understand that if you’ve got this,
then you follow this,
and if someone ever tries to judge you
by what you make, you give them this.

Here, let me break it down for you, so you know what I say is true:
Teachers make a goddamn difference! Now what about you?

Kid’s Show Us How to Have Compassion in Victory

Kid’s Show Us How to Have Compassion in Victory

Kids show compassion

 

 

 

What a great example of showing compassion. Hey, I am all for celebrating victories. Not everyone wins. Not everyone should get a prize. However, these days I think there can be a tendency to gloat over the competition. I love this video of the Junior Soccer World Challenge. Japan lost to Barcelona and the Japanese kids were clearly devastated. Instead of rubbing in their victory, the Barcelona kids showed compassion. Beautiful.

Just look at the boy looking intently into the other boy’s eyes. We can’t know what he is saying but you can tell it is words of kindness and not boasting. Great sportsmanship.

Love wins.

From my heart to yours,

Jen

 

Today I am Choosing Happiness

I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness.

I am in charge of how many feel

Are you choosing happiness?

From my heart to yours,

Jen

 

Back to School: The Conversation You Have to Have

The most important conversation you need to have with your kidsIt is Back to School Time

I first stumbled across this beautiful woman’s page Glennon Melton Doyle a few years ago and this may very well be my favorite thing she has written.  Ever. And, that is saying a lot because nearly every single doggone thing she writes speaks to my soul.

I read this to my kids before every school year begins.

Spoiler alert: I can never get very far into it without getting choked up.

From my heart to yours,

Jen

Be brave. Be kind.

Have This Conversation Before You Send Your Baby Back To School -…
“Hey Baby.

Tomorrow is a big day. Second Grade – wow.

Chase – When I was in third grade, there was a little boy in my class named Adam.

Adam looked a little different and he wore funny clothes and sometimes he even smelled a little bit. Adam didn’t smile. He hung his head low and he never looked at anyone at all. Adam never did his homework. I don’t think his parents reminded him like yours do. The other kids teased Adam a lot. Whenever they did, his head hung lower and lower and lower. I never teased him, but I never told the other kids to stop, either.

And I never talked to Adam, not once. I never invited him to sit next to me at lunch, or to play with me at recess. Instead, he sat and played by himself. He must have been very lonely.

I still think about Adam every day. I wonder if Adam remembers me? Probably not. I bet if I’d asked him to play, just once, he’d still remember me.

I think that God puts people in our lives as gifts to us. The children in your class this year, they are some of God’s gifts to you.

So please treat each one like a gift from God. Every single one.

Baby, if you see a child being left out, or hurt, or teased, a little part of your heart will hurt a little. Your daddy and I want you to trust that heart- ache. Your whole life, we want you to notice and trust your heart-ache. That heart ache is called compassion, and it is God’s signal to you to do something. It is God saying, Chase! Wake up! One of my babies is hurting! Do something to help! Whenever you feel compassion – be thrilled! It means God is speaking to you, and that is magic. It means He trusts you and needs you.

Sometimes the magic of compassion will make you step into the middle of a bad situation right away.

Compassion might lead you to tell a teaser to stop it and then ask the teased kid to play. You might invite a left-out kid to sit next to you at lunch. You might choose a kid for your team first who usually gets chosen last. These things will be hard to do, but you can do hard things.

Sometimes you will feel compassion but you won’t step in right away. That’s okay, too. You might choose instead to tell your teacher and then tell us. We are on your team – we are on your whole class’ team. Asking for help for someone who is hurting is not tattling, it is doing the right thing. If someone in your class needs help, please tell me, baby. We will make a plan to help together.

When God speaks to you by making your heart hurt for another, by giving you compassion, just do something. Please do not ignore God whispering to you. I so wish I had not ignored God when He spoke to me about Adam. I remember Him trying, I remember feeling compassion, but I chose fear over compassion. I wish I hadn’t. Adam could have used a friend and I could have, too.

Chase – We do not care if you are the smartest or fastest or coolest or funniest. There will be lots of contests at school, and we don’t care if you win a single one of them. We don’t care if you get straight As. We don’t care if the girls think you’re cute or whether you’re picked first or last for kickball at recess. We don’t care if you are your teacher’s favorite or not. We don’t care if you have the best clothes or most Pokemon cards or coolest gadgets. We just don’t care.

We don’t send you to school to become the best at anything at all. We already love you as much as we possibly could. You do not have to earn our love or pride and you can’t lose it. That’s done.

We send you to school to practice being brave and kind.

Kind people are brave people. Because brave is not a feeling that you should wait for. It is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd.

Trust me, baby, it is. It is more important.

Don’t try to be the best this year, honey.

Just be grateful and kind and brave. That’s all you ever need to be.

Take care of those classmates of yours, and your teacher, too. You Belong to Each Other. You are one lucky boy . . . with all of these new gifts to unwrap this year.

I love you so much that my heart might explode.

Enjoy and cherish your gifts.

And thank you for being my favorite gift of all time.

Love,
Mama”

– Glennon Melton Doyle, momoastery.com

Rita Pierson: Every Kid Needs a Champion

What would it be like if every child had a champion; someone cheering them on and expecting their very best?

Every child deserves a champion
Ted Talks

Every Kid Needs a Champion

In honor of school starting next week I am sharing a Ted Talk about one of the most inspiring teachers, Rita Pierson. I love this woman’s passion for education and her love of children is just this powerful force. She is so genuine and authentic and speaks from her heart and motivates and challenges and just loves on the littles. Even the littles who might not be so lovable. She speaks about developing a connection. Relationships are crucial to education.

Keep loving them and keep pushing them to be the very best they can be.

From my heart to yours,

Jen

Ted Talks Tuesday

 

Transcript

0:12
I have spent my entire life either at the schoolhouse, on the way to the schoolhouse, or talking about what happens in the schoolhouse.
0:22
(Laughter)
0:23
Both my parents were educators, my maternal grandparents were educators, and for the past 40 years, I’ve done the same thing. And so, needless to say, over those years I’ve had a chance to look at education reform from a lot of perspectives. Some of those reforms have been good. Some of them have been not so good. And we know why kids drop out. We know why kids don’t learn. It’s either poverty, low attendance, negative peer influences… We know why. But one of the things that we never discuss or we rarely discuss is the value and importance of human connection. Relationships.
1:07
James Comer says that no significant learning can occur without a significant relationship. George Washington Carver says all learning is understanding relationships. Everyone in this room has been affected by a teacher or an adult. For years, I have watched people teach. I have looked at the best and I’ve looked at some of the worst.
1:33
A colleague said to me one time, “They don’t pay me to like the kids. They pay me to teach a lesson. The kids should learn it. I should teach it, they should learn it, Case closed.”
1:44
Well, I said to her, “You know, kids don’t learn from people they don’t like.”
1:50
(Laughter)
1:52
(Applause)
1:58
She said, “That’s just a bunch of hooey.”
2:01
And I said to her,
2:02
“Well, your year is going to be long and arduous, dear.”
2:07
Needless to say, it was. Some people think that you can either have it in you to build a relationship, or you don’t. I think Stephen Covey had the right idea. He said you ought to just throw in a few simple things, like seeking first to understand, as opposed to being understood. Simple things, like apologizing. You ever thought about that? Tell a kid you’re sorry, they’re in shock.
2:30
(Laughter)
2:32
I taught a lesson once on ratios. I’m not real good with math, but I was working on it.
2:37
(Laughter)
2:38
And I got back and looked at that teacher edition. I’d taught the whole lesson wrong.
2:43
(Laughter)
2:44
So I came back to class the next day and I said, “Look, guys, I need to apologize. I taught the whole lesson wrong. I’m so sorry.”
2:53
They said, “That’s okay, Ms. Pierson. You were so excited, we just let you go.”
3:01
I have had classes that were so low, so academically deficient, that I cried. I wondered, “How am I going to take this group, in nine months, from where they are to where they need to be? And it was difficult, it was awfully hard. How do I raise the self-esteem of a child and his academic achievement at the same time?
3:26
One year I came up with a bright idea. I told all my students, “You were chosen to be in my class because I am the best teacher and you are the best students, they put us all together so we could show everybody else how to do it.”
3:42
One of the students said, “Really?”
3:44
(Laughter)
3:46
I said, “Really. We have to show the other classes how to do it, so when we walk down the hall, people will notice us, so you can’t make noise. You just have to strut.”
3:56
(Laughter)
3:57
And I gave them a saying to say: “I am somebody. I was somebody when I came. I’ll be a better somebody when I leave. I am powerful, and I am strong. I deserve the education that I get here. I have things to do, people to impress, and places to go.”
4:12
And they said, “Yeah!”
4:13
(Laughter)
4:15
You say it long enough, it starts to be a part of you.
4:20
(Applause)
4:27
I gave a quiz, 20 questions. A student missed 18. I put a “+2” on his paper and a big smiley face.
4:36
(Laughter)
4:38
He said, “Ms. Pierson, is this an F?”
4:42
I said, “Yes.”
4:43
(Laughter)
4:44
He said, “Then why’d you put a smiley face?”
4:48
I said, “Because you’re on a roll. You got two right. You didn’t miss them all.”
4:53
(Laughter)
4:54
I said, “And when we review this, won’t you do better?”
4:57
He said, “Yes, ma’am, I can do better.”
5:00
You see, “-18” sucks all the life out of you. “+2” said, “I ain’t all bad.”
5:11
For years, I watched my mother take the time at recess to review, go on home visits in the afternoon, buy combs and brushes and peanut butter and crackers to put in her desk drawer for kids that needed to eat, and a washcloth and some soap for the kids who didn’t smell so good. See, it’s hard to teach kids who stink.
5:31
(Laughter)
5:33
And kids can be cruel. And so she kept those things in her desk, and years later, after she retired, I watched some of those same kids come through and say to her, “You know, Ms. Walker, you made a difference in my life. You made it work for me. You made me feel like I was somebody, when I knew, at the bottom, I wasn’t. And I want you to just see what I’ve become.”
5:57
And when my mama died two years ago at 92, there were so many former students at her funeral, it brought tears to my eyes, not because she was gone, but because she left a legacy of relationships that could never disappear.
6:12
Can we stand to have more relationships? Absolutely. Will you like all your children? Of course not.
6:20
(Laughter)
6:22
And you know your toughest kids are never absent.
6:26
(Laughter)
6:28
Never. You won’t like them all, and the tough ones show up for a reason. It’s the connection. It’s the relationships. So teachers become great actors and great actresses, and we come to work when we don’t feel like it, and we’re listening to policy that doesn’t make sense, and we teach anyway. We teach anyway, because that’s what we do.
6:59
Teaching and learning should bring joy. How powerful would our world be if we had kids who were not afraid to take risks, who were not afraid to think, and who had a champion? Every child deserves a champion, an adult who will never give up on them, who understands the power of connection, and insists that they become the best that they can possibly be.
7:23
Is this job tough? You betcha. Oh God, you betcha. But it is not impossible. We can do this. We’re educators. We’re born to make a difference.
7:35
Thank you so much.
7:36
(Applause)

I never change. I simply become more of myself.

Never change

I never change.

Reading this quote this morning made me think, “Boy, does that ever ring true!”

It seems like as we are growing up it can feel like we are trying on different view points, different behaviors, different styles in the same fashion as if we are jumping in and out of life’s dressing room. We are trying to figure out what fits and what feels like “me”. Will I find “myself” among these things I chose to identify myself by?

As we try on different behaviors and mannerisms, or even different view points we struggle with what “fits”. It is as if adopting these choices define who we are.  Let’s see…how about this? Hmm…I am not so sure this is very flattering on me. But, it looked so good on that other lady! Ok, how about this? No. Definitely not. That is so last year…and I didn’t really love it then! Oh my THIS is back in style? I couldn’t pull this off when it was “in” before. What is my style, or what fits me or is comfortable?  What is “me”? As a result, we are continually seeking out “what defines us”.

I occasionally notice this with my children from time to time as they yearn to figure out who they are and who they want to be (especially the middle schooler). But, they have to figure this out on their own.

Maybe, as we get older, we become more comfortable in our own skin and we become more authentic to our true selves. Growing older is so liberating; as if we give ourselves permission, finally, to throw off the ideas and ways that just don’t fit.

“I never change. I simply become more of myself.”

In a word, liberating. I am really enjoying this journey to “become more of myself”. How about you?

From my heart to yours,

Jen

Be happy!